The Conformist

No No! No No! Its not another review on the movie! More of a thought about the generation of people who are somewhere in between, still trying to find where we belong!

Are we socialists, feminists, conformists, partly traditional, partly orthodox, partly liberal, partly bold, partly independent - isn't anything in parts just dangerous!!?! Sometimes we are so swamped by social theories, political movements and moral philosophies, we forget exactly what we are but then is there such a thing at all!

I haven't always conformed to the way a "indian girl child" should be and behave, but I have never really broken away from the mould either. There so many of us who like to be as different as we can be and yet are scared to be too different! We want to be noticed yet not stand out(like a sore thumb!!?!?!) in a crowd! Seems to be a thing that I live with in every decision I make everyday! And I wonder if its just me or its everything around me that makes me this way! The fact that parents arent yet used to the need of "wanting to be different" or the new breed at work who are all so "different" that we have to strive very hard to keep up!

A post on the posts on my posts!

Hey Random thoughts, that was a very nice augment to my thought!

A statement does not always have to mean exactly what it states or yes it does, but what it states is what the person who says it wants people to understand or maybe what the listener wants to hear!

Hmm! But rightly said, upto each one of us to decide whether, we are the ship, the boat, the boat with wings or the carrier ship, that could launch a thousand flights!

To the anonymous people, I am flattered that people read my blogs and it initiated thots enough for them to want to respond, but it'd be great if you signed with your blog id (of course only if you have one).

UPA Government’s Domestic Violence Bill - Imprecise Act?

That's what Karan Thapar would like to call it! But imprecise, being the word of the day is what I would like to call his interviewing skills! This is the guy who when interviewing Renuka Chowdhury about her new bill said that "that laws are always judged by the extremes, not by the middle position." and then said less than 2 mins later "You talk of a minute percentage of people", even though this "minute percentage of people" is a reference to the women who are burnt on the pyres of their husbands, don’t you think that is extreme Mr. Thapar, losing your life just becos your partner did, a partner, one might add, not necessarily of choice (not that it makes any difference)! And he doesn’t stop there, he seems more worried about the sad plight of those husbands who cant be sarcastic to their wives, "That means you can’t be sarcastic to your wife, it means you can’t call you brother-in-law an ass or a mother-in-law a nag even if both of those are correct.", something to think about! There are women getting killed all over the country and all Mr. Thapar seems to be worried about is that men wont be able to call their brothers-in-law an 'ass'. Talk about priorities!

He is also worried about what would happen if a guy happened to abuse the step-brother of an ex-girlfriend of before a decade, and I wonder why anybody would want to do that in the first place! He almost reprimands the lady when she says that there is a chance that every divorce case need not have an alimony set on the merits of the case, by saying that "Are you saying that the judges are wrong? Are you stepping in to correct what judges have done? " and yet without a second thought to his earlier incredulous statements, he very happily declares "You are adding to the situation of bad judges by giving them a bad law. ", insinuating, no I would say, saying in no uncertain words, that bad judges are not a rarity in Indian courts.

Really Mr. Thapar!!!!There were also misplaced comments like "But you don’t need a law to tackle Sati" of course, grace saved by adjoining it with a "But it’s already a crime in India. We don’t need a new law", not a miss one would expect from a journalist of Mr. Thapar's experience. On the whole he seemed to be a bundle of contradictions in himself.

I think all of Mr. Thapar's worries would be swept aside by the one statement made by Renuka Chowdhury, if the relationship is harmonious then there would be no reason for the husbands or in-laws to be worried. And for anyone who lives in the Indian society, they would know let alone a harmonious household, it still is amazingly rare that a woman ever opposes her household, how much ever torture she endures there!

To Mr. Thapar I would like to say - Chill, 'innocent' husbands are not very likely to be dragged to the courts!

F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

What would we do without them!

Taking life as it comes

What does that mean? Does it mean you are so tough that you can handle anything that life will bring your way, or that you are just too lazy to do anything about anything and will take whatever morsels life tosses your way.

Protestors and their reasons to protest!

Saw an article in the newspaper today that read "Sania's effigy burnt", and I thought,"now, what did the poor thing do?". Well, it seems she made the mistake of stepping on the national flag for some shoe commercial. Now, there were so many questions popping off in my head. Dont people have anything better to do? Is she the one or atleast the only one to be penalised? Did the situation justify the burning of an effigy?

And while all these questions were tossing up and about, there was also this one thought. These protestors/activists protest because they feel so strongly about an issue! Strong enough to want to protest against it and to let everyone know that this is how they feel. Like they have a mission in life and because they do, there is more meaning to their life than mere mortals like those who read these articles in the newspapers and think - Dont people have anything better to do? Is she the one or atleast the only one to be penalised? Did the situation justify the burning of an effigy?

"Protest expresses relatively overt reaction to events or situations: sometimes in favor, though more often opposed. Protesters may organize a protest as a way of publicly and forcefully making their opinions heard in an attempt to influence public opinion or government policy, or may undertake direct action to attempt to directly enact desired changes themselves.
Self-expression can, in theory, in practice or in appearance, be restricted by governmental policy, economic circumstances, religious orthodoxy, social structures, or media monopoly. When such restrictions happen, grumbles or interior opposition may spill over into other areas such as culture, the streets or emigration."

How can something which belongs to such a beautiful species get so ugly? No, I am not talking about humans!

Everybody seems to be doing it!

Blogging!
Why am I not? Cos I am too busy reading other's blogs? Not done! Lemme try! But what do I write about? Seems like I have this huge blogger's block, well shouldnt really call it that cos I am not a blogger yet! It feels like I am doing all my blogging in my mind! Is that safe?